Shame on the bullies!


Today I am writing as a world leader. Since I don’t see any world leader doing this, so just let me take the responsibility of TRYING to sort out this bullying thing.

I’m not going to re-tell the Charlie Hebdo massacre. Condolences to the families of the victim. May God bless their souls.

In my opinion (since today I’m a world leader, IT MATTERS!), this whole thing about “freedom of speech” done by Charlie Hebdo is their way of allowing themselves to make fun of something so important to others who have different beliefs. Why not doing a comic version of how Buddha achieved Nirvana? Maybe a picture of Kurt Cobain on the side? Or the illustrated version of how Mother Mary got knocked up? No? Why? Why not? Because it is disrespecful and you don’t want to go to hell for doing so.

Is there any where in the teachings of Jesus alaihi salam that we are allowed to mock others who are different than us? I bet you won’t find any in the Bible that says ‘thou shall throw shit onto the faces of those who believe in not me’. So why are they doing this to Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.? What did he do to them, that they are so determined to diminish his reputation? What are they so afraid of?

I took psychology during my degree years. Yes, yes. I’m not an expert but after 4 years of learning all those behavioral courses, I have learned that bullying (Definition of bully from Wikipedia: Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or by others, of an imbalance of social or physical power. Behaviors used to assert such domination can include verbal harassment or threat, physical assault or coercion, and such acts may be directed repeatedly towards particular targets. Rationalizations for such behavior sometimes include differences of social class, race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, appearance, behavior, body language, personality, reputation, lineage, strength, size or ability) happens as a result of ones feeling of vulnerability towards a certain issue.

Again, since I’m a world leader today, I have concluded that this is a bullying case. Charlie Hebdo have something that they are trying cover up by making fun of someone else’s beliefs.

Now, let’s talk about how those people went on a rampage and killed 12 people. SHAME ON YOU! Why did you have to do that? Now the rest of the Muslim world have to suffer. No, don’t say jihad. Jihad is pure. We do not have to spill blood for Jihad. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad s.a.w was a man of peace. There was no threat in what ever tasteless attack Charlie Hebdo did. Yes, of course it was disturbing. Of course we are angry. But there’s always a way that does not include killing people to settle this. If we believe in the ways of our Prophet Muhammad s.a.w, we know that he does not like violence.

So, how do we deal with bullies? We boycott them. We ignore their voices. We stand together and turn our backs to them. I hope the Pope or the rest of the world leaders would say something about this. I did my part. Being a world leader is not easy. I have to send my people to school for good education, I have to cook  and feed them, I have to go to the store and buy groceries so that my people will have chipsmore and oreos at home… And it’s not even 10am yet! A lot of things to do being a world leader. I’ll go back to being just a housewife now. Being world leader is not good for my complexion. I frown too much in the 25 minutes of me assuming the role of a world leader.



A friend…

It was 3.48am and I opened my FB page. I saw a post on someone commenting about home birth and death. I was angry at 3.48am. Angry at the writer who think that whatever decision that she made was better than those who were not mainstream.

At approximately 9pmish Malaysia time on the 28th of December 2014, I received one of the most shocking news of the year. My good friend, Maria Zain passed away in Nottingham after giving birth to her sixth child. It was just something that I couldn’t swallow for a few days. Unbelievable. I cried buckets and kept crying every time I saw the postcards she sent me, or the beads she strung for me. It was just heartbreaking. I kept thinking about her children. She was a hands on mother. She was homeschooling her children. What will happen to their education now? How will her husband deal with six children under the age of nine? With a newborn in tow? How??? And I cried again…

The article I read early this morning was about the mothers who have lost their lives for choosing to do home birth instead of the hospital. I myself prefers to give birth in a hospital with doctors and the medical team around me. But I never think those who choose home birth any lesser. Mothers around the world give birth at home every day. Yes, in this modern days, why choose to ignore the advancement when it could probably save you. Maria and I, we agreed to disagree on a few things. Home birth… Vaccination… But we respect each others decisions. I still love hearing her birthing stories. It was inspiring.

In the article, the writer indicated that mothers who died during home birth could have avoided it. The more I read the article, the more ridiculous it sounds. How could you avoid death? Death is not preventable. There are mothers who died giving birth in the hospital as well. So how can you say those who opted for home birth is responsible for their own demise? Astagfirullahalazim. As a believer, I have faith that every single thing happens for a reason. God will not take your life if it was not your time yet. A friend just lost her father, who died in his sleep. The point is, death is not preventable. When it is time for us to go, by His will, we go. Innalillahiwainnailaihirajiun. To God do we belong, and to God do we return.

So whether we choose to give birth in the hospital or at home, it is our preference. Do not judge those who have different opinion and surely, do not think those who opted for home birth are selfish. Those who passed, died doing the thing they loved most. It’s like a soldier, going to a battlefield. They are aware of that they have 50% chance of dying on the field, but they do it anyway.

As for her children, it is sad to think that they will have to grow up without a mother. The newborn didn’t even get to feel his mother’s touch. *Crying again*. However, he will be loved no less than his siblings. His mother sacrificed herself for him. That is the biggest gesture of love anyone could ever receive. Sacrifice. And all of them will have lots of family and friends helping them out. They will not be alone. InsyaAllah, they will be fine. I have no doubt that her husband will do great in raising the children. Instead of pitying them, let’s just pray for their happiness.

So… Yes I know my last post was back in January 2014. I hope that this year I’ll get more time to write again. I dedicate this first post of 2015 to Maria Zain. May her soul be blessed amongst those who are happy in Paradise.


xox: NN